It was only right that for my 2nd Wedding Anniversary that I write a blog talking about our 2nd year of marriage. Here are just a few questions that I asked my husband (Alex) and vice versa:
1) What advice would you give to a young couple looking to get married?
Alex - Serve each other... if you both serve each other no one will go neglected.
Kay - Communicate, Communicate, COMMUNICATE...
2) How would you describe your 2nd year of marriage?
Alex - First year was very honey-moonish and the 2nd year was a lot more difficult.. a reality check. Our marriage was tested to see how strong we really were. The babies in the nicu, finding out one of our babies had a severe hearing loss, qurantining and being in the house with Kay and the twins for months on months without a break was really difficult.
Kay - The second year was absolutely crazy! The twins were born a month after our first year anniversary, stayed in the NICU for 33 and 35 days, came home, and then quarantine hit. The second year was work!
3) What did you learn from your 2nd year of marriage?
Alex - I really took God for granted in the 2nd year of marriage. I expected Him to work out everything without reading or praying. Kay and I didnt pray together as much and it really put a strain on us during the most difficult times. I learned that I need to stay rooted.. I was trying to always handle situations on my own power.
Kay - I knew that Alex and I were soul mates but, the 2nd year brought on a whirlwind of events. Through it all I learned that we were not only soul mates but, also teammates. We really needed to be there for each other at the most difficult times. We needed to push each other and take over when one of us was down.
4) How did the twins change the marriage?
Alex - At first it was hard because in instances when we were not patient.. they had us going back and forth with each other. They helped me to increase my patience. We had joy before but, they brought even more joy to the marriage. They are cool.
Kay - It was ALWAYS Alex and I. People always would say we were always together. So, when I think about it comes as no surprise that we would have twins. The twins changed the marriage because for one it required alot more patience and, also alot more WORK! Overall, it showed us how to work together and, to see us grow together over the years and enter parenthood is truly beautiful.
Marriage is hard but, sanctifying and rewarding. It takes a relationship with the Lord to even know how to love your spouse properly. Marriage teaches you how to die to yourself by becoming selfless and looking to the needs of your spouse rather than yourself.
Matthew 16:24 states that "If anyone wants to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross and be following Me."
- What are some areas in your life that you need to die to yourself in?
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